Lets Talk- Just Read This Please

A woman has a 1 in 262,365 chance of being killed by a shark in her lifetime.

In that very same lifetime, she has a 1 in 6 chance of being raped.

Just because someone wants to touch you doesn't give them the right. A human being is not your toy. To the guys that think women are property and a vehicle for accomplishing a goal. To the women that grew up in a society that told them to value themselves based on their appearance. You are allowed to celebrate your body and still be valued as a human being!!  

100 million sharks have been killed annually in the name of an unjustified threat to humans. 

When it comes to rape prosecution, only 16.3% of reported rapists are imprisoned. 

I moved out on my own at 17 years old and seriously worked 3 jobs just to survive. It was in workplace environments that I fully understood how horrible rape culture is. One of the hardest parts for me to cope with is that I'm thankful that I have just been sexually harassed. So may f**king woman are NOT as lucky, and this is why I cannot be silent. 

I want to empower you to no longer be silent.

It's a sad reality that we live in, but the worst thing we can do is NOT talk about it. We need to teach the men in our society that consent is mandatory. If you disagree with this statement please visit the link below and do your own research as well. 

Be a feminist

"Don't allow men who hate women to define feminism as women who hate men."

- John Marcotte 

Feminism is not a dirty word. It doesn't mean you hate men. Preaching for equal right does not mean fewer rights for men.

"A feminist is a woman who tells the truth about her life"

-Virginia woolf

OH YA AND MEN CAN BE FEMINISTS TOO 

xoxo

Auria Geskin 

Assaulted Women’s Helpline: toll-free at 1-866-863-0511

WAVAW Rape Crisis Line 24-Hour Crisis Line: 604-255-6344 or toll-free 1-877-392-7583

For more on sexual assault and statistics please visit https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence

 

 

My Wakeup Call: Ashley Resch

As most of you may or may not know in addition to modelling and running Boss Babe Movement I used to also work a full-time career. Monday- Friday 7:30am-4:30pm as a Regional Health & Safety Coordinator for a staffing agency. That was my job for the past year and prior to that I was working my ass off as the Administrative Assistant to get promoted into this position. 

(and no, this is not an article for you to feel bad for me or to think I am anything except a regular person with the same struggles) 

Getting promoted into this job had perks like I had never experienced, for the first time in my life I felt like I was making a positive difference in so many peoples lives by helping them through injury that were sometimes life changing. I was paid to travel all over Canada for conferences, meetings & claims and I was making more money than I understood why I deserved. Sounds perfect right? 

This past year of my life I had perks like no other and was truly blessed for being put into a role like this with very little education in the field however that did not make me any happier or make my life any more fulfilling when I woke up and had to drag myself to my office each and everyday. I can honestly say at the end of my job at this agency I was truly and utterly depressed and miserable. 

I had always heard people saying that “life was to short” or that “you don’t have to trap yourself in a job” but I had to much pride and thought my only value was in the title I carried for one company. So I stuck it out way longer than anyone as miserable as me should have, but the thought of changing anything in my life especially losing money was so scary that I decided at that point last April that my happiness was dependant on a paycheque. I looked forward to every Wednesday for payday when I would go shopping, drinking and spend way to much money on food… you know the regular things that 20 year olds do after getting paid.

But then one day it got to be too much, it wasn’t one blow out that happened or one day i woke up and decided I was done, but rather I had a wake up call. I was sitting in a cubical at 21 years old while all my friends were pursing their passions and living lives as young people in their 20’s and I felt like I was behind because I wasn’t settled down and didn’t want to buyhouse. I actually felt like I was failing at something in my life because I didn’t have a relationship at the time, a true plan, a love for the company and a career path so I made the choice to leave.

I thought I figured it out last year that money doesn’t make happiness but I didn’t because last year when I thought that was my lesson it turned out to be a very different point and I finally realized that what makes me truly happy is advancing in my careers of passion not money, traveling and surrounding myself with people and things I love; which is what I decided to do. 

Do I have my life planned out like I once did? Absolutely not. Do I know what I want to do with my life? No But am I happy? Fuck ya.

Little Update: Lauren Hedley

Hey Guys,

 

So so so sorry I have been so MIA lately. I honestly didn't realize how much shit I have going on in my life so I thought I would just write this blog about why I have been so distant. I never realized how much I had on my plate until I started school last week. As some of you may know I took a year off and just started my first year at Mount Royal for Sports Management. For me, I have never ever been good at school. I always got low marks except in like maybe 2 classes and I honestly never really went to school much. Once I actually started back in school though my entire mindset has changed toward it and my goal is to really really do well this year. I guess it's not an excuse but I know my parents have spent TONS on my tuition so I need to make them proud ya know? Who wouldn't. So basically juggling work, school, working out has been super hard.

But enough about school, honestly lately you guys I have been dealing with a lot of stress and anxiety attacks because of the amount of stress I'm under. My depression has seemed to kick back in but that happens all the time. Unfortunately though, dealing with all of this has taken the biggest toll on my favorite thing in the world, working out. I have been SO unmotivated and so lazy lately, not eating, not sleeping correctly, just been a lot lately I guess. Which of course takes a HUGE toll on the mental side of things since I truly am my hardest critic. But honestly this I'm time its been  really really hard. I've been loosing a lot of weight, not thinking right, and it has taken the biggest toll on me. Now I know a lot of you are probably like oh shut up but like, it is hard to balance all these new things in my life. 

I honestly don't know why I'm writing this I kind of just needed to vent and also apologize for not writing any blog posts lately I promise to try and get on top of that. I guess what I'm writing this for is FIND A BALANCE. That is basically what I'm trying to learn how to do right now. I now realize how much time it can take and how hard it can be at times but eventually I'll figure it out. For working out though, I really hope I can get back into the gym soon. Because my god even going to the gym right now and seeing the progress I've lost it just kills me. I know people are like oh my god you look amazing or oh my god wow look at you but that's not ME. My brain is so confusing especially when it comes to myself and what I look like. I guess for me it takes a long long time to love myself, but eventually I'll get there. 

So guys, when you get stressed and don't know where to look or what to do, find a balance. I've started writing in my new agenda all the things I have to do that week and I guess that's my first step. It has really helped so I guess now it's time to fit the gym into my crazy schedule. I promise I'll try my best to blog more I think I just have to get adjusted to school first.

 

Have a great day Boss Babes.

 

Lauren Hedley 

Feeling A Little Blue? 8 Powerful Things To Do When You Need A Pick Me Up

Hey Babes,

We all have those days trust me. The ones when you just don't feel 100% alright, next time try one of these 10 suggestions (or more I won't judge!) and see how you feel afterward.

1. Go for a long walk, and bring your favorite tunes

2. Take that yoga, barre, spin, or boxing class (whatever your vice may be)

When you are feeling down this might feel like quite the task BUT breaking a sweat in a positive environment can really do a lot for the soul! 

3. Plan a pamper night: Face mask, hot bath, light some candles, put on some Beyonce 

4. Write a thank you letter to someone close 

Wonders can be done by allowing yourself to feel grateful! It really can put the world and your problems into perspective 

5. Watch your favorite childhood movie 

6. Bake your favorite dessert (Chocolate lava cake anyone?)

7. Try to see the bigger picture

This may be the most difficult when you feel low but please try to remember how lucky you are to be alive and how extraordinary it really is to be human.

8. Write down a list of small attainable goals that you will complete this week

Feeling down? Sometimes you just gotta make yourself proud and show yourself how much you can get done.

Next time you need a pick me up, try one of these to help ya out! 

xoxo

Auria Geskin

 

 

 

 

We Need To Talk- Slut Shaming

Definition: A form of social stigma applied to people who are perceived to violate traditional expectations for sexual behaviours, commonly applied to women and girls.

Example of common Slut Shaming: Look her bra is showing, she is such a slut.  

Another example of common Slut Shaming: I heard BLANK lost her virginity at 15, what a whore. 

THINK BEFORE YOU SLUT SHAME 

It's time to STOP shaming women and girls for being sexual after society has sexualized us most of our lives. In the words of Clementine Ford " Asking women to respect themselves in order to earn the right to be treated like a human being is total horseshit. But suggesting that you have the RIGHT to treat her exactly how you please because she didn't adhere to your archaic views of feminine propriety is misogyny, plain and simple."

If you are a woman and reading this, chances are you have been a victim of some form of slut shaming in your life. You are worth so much more than your physical appearance or sexual orientation. Who cares if your bra is showing?! Who cares if her dress is too short?! Who cares if you see a woman aggressively making out in public?! Self-respect has nothing to do with sex or nudity. Self-respect means making choices that make YOU HAPPY.  Ask yourself one more question... is it physically hurting you? NOT ITS NOT! The only thing you are doing by slut shaming is setting women's rights back HUNDREDS of years. You may not even notice, but today I urge you to change your mind on the topic once and for all. As human beings, we have to duty to treats others with dignity and respect REGARDLESS of their own life choices.

xoxo

Auria Geskin 

 

 

Finding Balance in Breaks & Getting Motivated

WHAT UP BOSS BABES

I hope you are all having an amazing summer, having fun, staying healthy and safe!

This summer has been a whirlwind of traveling, enjoying too many beverages and unhealthy food and as much fun as it has been I have been slacking and not focusing on what is truly my passion and what is most important to me- which is Boss Babe Movement and you guys!

I rarely ever take breaks and when I do I find myself getting caught up in taking breaks for way to long and not getting back into my work and getting back into my life and this summer has been a perfect example of that. Traveling and having fun should not mean that you don't work it should mean you find a balance and just stop doing anything and everything productive in your life. 

Finding balance between enjoying life and working hard is incredibly hard but after yo-yoing back and forth for the past couple of months I found what was working for me when I needed to get motivated.

 

1. Make a List

As most people close to me know that I live with my day planner at my hip and if I write it down it will get done and typically when I go MIA it has alot to do with the fact that I haven't been writing down the things I want to accomplish throughout that day. When you visually write down the things you want to accomplish when the list is all crossed off its incredibly liberating. 

2. Set Goals

Going hand in hand with making lists and visually seeing what you need to get done- make goals. Sometimes weekly, monthly or even yearly goals are enough to push ourselves into high gear to get everything done. Personally I set monthly & yearly goals and weekly I have targets of things I want to get done and if I push them into the next week I know they will never get done so I am always striving to hit them. 

3. Remember Your Why

Remember why you do the things you do. Do you work hard for yourself, your family or for the money that comes with anything you do? Whatever it could be remember why you started in the first place and trust yourself enough to know you wouldn't have started something without thinking about it thoroughly first, so hit the drawing board and remember why you started in the first place. Normally this is enough to kick my ass back into high gear. 

Other small things I do to re-motivate myself are: 

  • Find a good motivational/ business book 
  • Read my favorite blogs & bloggers- The Thought Catalog & Dale Partridge 
  • Go to the gym & start getting active 
  • I ask my friends & family to hold me accountable for the things I say I am going to do 

Now that I am back and ready to work we have so much coming for fall and I am so excited to get back to work and bring you guys more content than ever!

- Ashley Resch

 

 

Lets Talk - Confidence

Oxford Dictionaries define the term as "the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something". Although correct, confidence encompasses SO MUCH MORE, yet the conversation surrounding the topic is often quiet. I say it's time to SHAKE IT UP! 

What Is Real Confidence?

Real confidence is not being afraid to ask a question when you don't know the answer

Real confidence means not being afraid of looking vulnerable or weak 

Real confidence is being able to say "F*ck it"

Real confidence is walking with purpose 

Real confidence is being open to criticism

Real confidence has no room for jealousy

Real confidence means accepting your flaws

Real confidence is to smile only when you really mean it

Real confidence is being able to say "She's beautiful but so am I'. 

Real confidence is knowing you have nothing to prove 

 

What does Confidence mean to you guys?

Join the conversation by sending us an email, tagging us on your Instagram or Facebook posts, or using the #Bbmovement 

xoxo

Auria Geskin 

 

 

If I Could Speak To My Younger Self: Auria Geskin

If I had the opportunity to sit down with my younger self I would tell her to not be afraid. Life is going to put you on your ass more times than you'd hope for, but do not be frightened. The most important lessons life will ever teach you are when you are at your lowest. Growth is formed just like a diamond, under a f**k ton of pressure young lady, but, the pressure is what you need. 

"Healing is the end of conflict with yourself", acquire the skill to heal as a way to cope with your debilitating anxiety and you can start really fulfilling your dreams. TRUST ME. You must work to love yourself inside and out, so you can start helping others. I know its hard, but it will be the single best move you have made in your life.

Savor the small things. Cooking a perfect chicken breast, finding a new favorite shade of nail polish, a good hair day. Sounds silly to a 15-year-old version of me, but, it's one of the secrets of true happiness. Life will never be perfect, so you might as well start enjoying as much as you can. You never know when your short trip on earth may end.

Fitness will be your anchor and, true passion in life. It will allow you the outlet you need to be at peace with yourself. It will be there during the good times and the horrible ones, but, it will always be there. You will one day become a provincially qualified bikini competitor (the dream of nationals is still a work in progress), It will teach you the self-discipline you need excel and so much more.

Oh, yeah, and one last thing. Don't take yourself so damn seriously Hun. 

 

 

If I Could Speak To My Younger Self: Ashley Resch

Dear younger version of me,

You are sweet, kind, innocent and are incredibly naive to everyone's intentions and you believe anything anyone tells you because you believe that villains are only in fairy-tails but never real life. Constantly you are trying to find an escape, a pathway or just a reason why you are just as important as every other being on this planet; you constantly question whats the point, and where your life will end up. 

I want you to know that your worth is never dependent on others thoughts or views of yourself, your worth is never determined by the man you have chosen to be with or that has chosen to not be with you. Your worth is determined completely by the price tag you put on yourself; don't put it on clearance or even sale- give yourself the price you deserve. 

When you are 19 your life will dramatically change but this change is the best change that could have ever happened because without the tragedy you never would have been able to create the art you do. 

Life is not going to get easier, when you graduate highschool your problems become bigger and more life altering than you could have mentally prepared yourself for, but do the right thing and be the bigger person; but never sacrifice your morals. Stick to what you know, and stop trying to prove yourself to people who won't matter in 3 months let alone in 5 years. 

Don't binge drink, don't take that stupid bar job, stop spending money you don't have and work your ass off because it pays off a million times more than you ever thought it could. 

If I Could Speak To My Younger Self: Lauren Hedley

Happy Wednesday Boss Babes! I leave in 9 days to go on a beautiful cruise with my dad and sister for 10 wonderful days!

Today I thought I'd get a little more serious and talk about what I would say to my younger self if I ever had a chance.

1. You are strong and you can get through anything. - I say this to myself now & wish I could have said it before too. I never ever believed in myself when I was younger. I always doubted myself in everything I did whether it was swimming, school, or even any sort of goal I ever wanted to achieve. Until I turned 18, I honestly didn't believe in myself as a person because I just felt defeated by myself already because of so many tough times.However, I'm so happy now I Am able to believe in myself and surpass all of my goals and achieve greatness each day in a different sort of way. I've been able to get through SO many tough times because I finally let myself believe I was good enough. If I could tell my younger self all of this, I know I would have never done some of the things I did to myself, or others.

2. FORGIVE YOURSELF. - This one is honestly the most important and personal to me. I have fucked up more times than I have done right in the past, however, I have realized I have to forgive myself before you can forgive others. I was a total dumb ass when I was younger and could care less about anybody, but when I realized what my dumb choices were doing and how they were affecting my closest friends, I had to figure out what I was doing with my life. In order to figure this out I had to loose my best friend to dumb choices in high school, but because of this one thing I have been able to realize who I Am, what I need to work on in my life, and how I need to forgive myself and not dwell on the past, but let it better me as a person. 

3. Learn to let things go. - I'm one to hold a grudge at times not going to lie haha! I have major anger issues and can be a total b***h, but I realized that I'm also just as nice as I Am a little hot headed. I hold on to the smallest or/and biggest things just because I think that I can eventually fix the problem, but I know I need to realize that sometimes I can't fix certain problems and that I can simply choose to dwell on it or just simply let it go. If I could tell my younger self to let things go I would have been a way better person inside and out. I held so so so many negative grudges that now all I seem to have are these grudges for nothing. SO LET IT GO.

4. Love Yourself - Simple. Love yourself. Love the hell out of yourself ladies and gentleman. This is so crucial in every individuals life because if you don't love yourself, how can you love others? How can you love what you're doing? It takes time, I understand that more than anybody, however, when you love yourself so many doors open its crazy. Again, until I was 18 I really didn't care about myself at all or what I did. I thought of only things that would benefit me but I didn't think about what my choices would do to others. Until I focused on loving myself and accepting myself I never really understood anything to be honest. I kind of just went with the flow and didn't really have a path for myself or my future. However, when I chose to start loving myself I finally felt like my own person. I would tell my younger self to love herself because it is important to be able to love who you are so that you can be at peace with yourself.

5. If you don't like what you're doing, why do it? Being an aspiring fitness competitor I realize now after many years of constant training for swimming, if you don't enjoy what you are doing don't do it. I loved swimming for a long time and made so many friends and traveled so many places but after so many years of constant training twice a day two hours each practice I was so burnt out I barely even went to practice. Do what you love. That may change as the years go on but that doesn't mean that's wrong in any way. The best feeling for me was when I found fitness and working out was what I really wanted to do. When you find your true passion its like nothing can stop you. I'd tell my younger self to stay positive and stay focus and driven, but also to put those three things into something I love doing. Your motivation to be better sky rockets, you as a person grows tremendously, your mindset changes to be so much more positive. I love what I do, I love what I have become and I don't plan on stopping.

 

So there ya have it ladies n gents! 5 things I wish I could tell myself when I was younger. There are so many more things I wish I could say, but I might as well write a book! 

Enjoy your Wednesday Boss Babes! 

 

Written by: Lauren Hedley

Instagram: laurenhedleyy

How I Balance a Full-Time Modeling Career, a Full-Time Job & Owning a Business

WHATS UP BOSS BABES

Today I wanted to talk about a question I get all the time- is how do you do it? How do you balance a full-time job, a full-time modeling career, owning a business and you still have fun? I won't lie to you its alot to handle and I am permanently running on coffee, tea and very little sleep but I have never been happier. I want to share with you how I manage it all and how I manage to do this and still live a life where I can travel, see my friends, make time to date (occasionally) and stay fit. 

As some of you may not know I work a full-time job, Monday- Friday 7:30am-4:30pm I am in an office working my little butt off for a large company like the most of us do. Along with that my modeling career takes several hours of work a day and I typically have 2-3 photo-shoots per week, apart of that I own Boss Babe Movement and I am the founder of BBM Charities & Community which means I am constantly attending events and working with local charities. In a nutshell I am a very busy person, and it has been like this for the past 2-3 years of my life. 

I know that a lot of you are going to ask why I don't model fulltime and honestly when I started modeling I thought about it as a hobby and nothing more. I thought it would be cool to be in a magazine or two so I could show my kids when I am old and wrinkly. But at the end of the day I am a realist and being realistic I have a lifestyle I want to live and unless I am Gigi Hadid (and one day I will be my own version of her) I am not going to be able to get the things I want both materialistically and in business. I like to travel, spend too much money on shoes and go out which means money, money and more money; apart from that I am a firm believer in investments and investing in the future and your future both with time and money which is why I keep my job. 

Finding a balance is all about making priority anything and everyone I know will make the things that need to be a priority if it is important enough. My priorities are being successful but without being able to celebrate that success its null and void (in my opinion) which is why I always make sure I have down-time for myself and time to see my friends and travel; because thats what I love doing. Along with that my health & fitness is extremely important to me so I make time to make sure I can cook healthy meals, and workout. 

When it comes to work I stay up as late as possible and work my ass off talking to brands, writing blog posts or just simply brainstorming where I want my businesses to go, I also very rarely don't work at all on the weekends. My weekends are typically the times where I schedule 2-3 photoshoots a day and meetings- take advantage of the weekends because when you are doing something you truly love it doesn't feel like work at all. 

How I balance it all is by making the things I want out of my life a priority and taking time for myself. Being a little bit selfish and making myself my biggest priooity was the best thing I have ever done and once I did that my life seemed to come together piece by piece.  

20 life lessons I have learned

It has not been an easy life, but in my short time on this planet, I have learned these 20 things for sure. I'm not proud of how I learned some of these life lessons that's for sure. In this very uncertain life the one thing I can say for sure is how damn lucky I have been to learn these tough lessons. I hope you guys enjoy and let us know WHAT life lessons you have learned.

 

1. Stop comparing yourself to others. seriously its a waste of time

2. Empowered women empower other women

3. You are not perfect, and that's okay

4.Hell is outside, heaven is just a state of mind

5. Be careful of who you take advice from

6. There is NO one sizs fits all

7. You will suffer, but you will grow from it

8. Set boundaries for yourself love

9. If you are not happy with your life, change it

10. Make peace with your past, so you dont screw up your present

11. Sometimes you fall off course 

12. Its okay to let people see you cry

13. Get ready everyday day for you and you only

14. Does that outfit make you feel beautiful? Wear it

15. be kind to yourself so you can be kind to others

16.What other people think is none of your business 

17. The best is yet to come

18. Life is not tied with a bow but it is a gift 

19. Have the piece of cake

20. MIndset matters

 

Let US know what life lessons you have learned 

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xoxo

Coach Auria 

 

 

 

5 Ways to Practice Daily Personal Development

1. When you catch yourself thinking the grass is greener on the other side, challenge yourself to water the grass you are standing on.

I know this one is hard. When things get tough, as human beings, our natural reaction is to get bitter and shut down. I'm here to ask you today to FIGHT that feeling. To FIGHT the urge to shut down. Next time when you feel that pang of jealousy ask yourself what you can do that moment to water your own grass.

2. When you have two good options. Challenge yourself to go with the scarier option.

Often these are the ones that push us to grow faster...Diamonds are only made under pressure beautiful.

3. Practice self-reflection daily. Analyze what made you successful for the day and the opposite.

Take time to identify the activities and actions that make YOU feel good. This can happen at any time during the day. Personally, I choose to write for 5 minutes in the morning and evening. Every morning I start out with a gratitude log (check out our post on that!) and in the evenings is when I take the time to analyze my day. What made my day great... what I can do better. 

4. Surround yourself with people who share similar goals

This one is a freaking no brainer people. We ALL know we need to do this but its just a matter of choosing to cut the negative (soul suckers) that bring us down and hold us back, out of your life. 

5. Watch my favorite Ted talks

Matt Cutts – Try Something New For 30 Days

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nzRvMsrnoF8

Kelly McGonigal: How to make stress your friend

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGyVTAoXEU

 

I hope you guys enjoyed our 5 ways to practice daily personal development! Let us know which ones you try and your thoughts.

xoxo

Auria Geskin 

 

Why I Changed My Life For The Better

Hey Boss Babes! Hope everyone is having a fantastic day. 

I've never really shared much about me other than the fact that I swam and now I'm into fitness and helping others achieve their goals, so, today I thought I'd tell you guys a little more about me! This post may be longer than others but I'd say it's a pretty important one. 

So I swam since I was nine years old and basically all I did until I was seventeen was swim and go to school. This really took a toll on me just because I didn't know what else was out there and what other things I was capable of. Now I'm not saying swimming sucked, I loved it and it took me places I never thought I could or would go and I met so many amazing people along the way and I'm forever grateful for that, however, I always wanted to do something more or switch it up a bit. 

When I was young I went through my parents divorce which sucked but I got over it and now I'm so happy for both of them, however, at the time it really did affect me. I started acting out, getting all emotional, doing stupid stuff. I don't think much of it had to do with my parents divorce, but it was mostly me just starting to follow others who did stupid stuff that at the time I thought was "cool." Basically age 12 up until age 16, 17 I really didn't give two shits about anything or anyone for that matter. I did whatever I wanted, hung out with people that I thought were cool but really now that I think of it weren't cool at all, and did a lot of things I'm not proud of. 

I was a dumb teenager who thought to fit in I would have to do what others did, I was so wrong. I ended up having pretty bad depression, lashing out all the time at anyone who talked to me, treated my real friends and family terribly, self harming, doing drugs, having ADHD, feeling insecure, having anxiety, hating myself, the list goes on. I had no idea what my life had become and I was so ashamed of myself. I made so many terrible decisions which ended up costing me my real friends, doing horrible in school, not going to practices, and much more. I really hit rock bottom when I ended up not getting into UofA because my marks were so low. I was so set on going there and swimming with the team I just didn't even think of the actual school part. Being me, I just thought whatever I'll get in because they offered me a scholarship there's nothing to worry about. WRONG. Also when I lost my bestfriend of like eight maybe nine years and lots of other close friends to terrible mistakes I made in high school, it really took it's toll on me as well. Having people judge you, hate you, and make fun of you is honestly super shitty. I never thought I would do some of the terrible things I had done, but I have definitely learnt from my mistakes.

When I turned 18 and decided I was going to quit swimming, I knew it was time for a change. I started working out with my mom at the Shawnessy YMCA, ended up getting into Mount Royal University even with my not so amazing grades, I got a job at the place I used to swim (ironic, just can't get away from this place), I met the most amazing, loving man who I'm head over heels for and who has the same passions as me, and I now get along with my parents more than I ever have. My whole outlook on life changed when I decided I needed to focus on ME and focus on bettering myself. I started working out every single day, took a spring course, worked a lot at my job, basically everything started falling into place for me. 

Now, I'm apart of an amazing movement with two beautiful strong women who I look up to and care for, I have never felt better about myself, I work hard at my job, I work hard at school, and I work hard at bettering myself every single day even though I still have ADHD and I may still have some super shitty days.

Basically babes what I'm trying to say is that life can be super shitty and you can make dumb mistakes, follow the wrong crowd, not be yourself, but you can change that!! You can change for the better, you can BE BETTER. I never thought I would be where I am today and I can't thank the people who stook around enough for helping me along. YOU are in control. YOU are your own person. YOU are the one who makes the decisions to get up off your ass and decide to be better. I've had a tough couple of years, lots of people have, it's just choosing to do something about it. I used to be this sad, lonely, lazy girl who could care less about herself or others, until I made the decision to fight for what I wanted. If I could take back the dumb shit I did, I would. Some stuff I wouldn't though because if I didn't do or go through some of that stuff I wouldn't be who I am today. 

So work hard boss babes. Work hard for yourselves and push yourselves to be a better version of you. 

 

Written by: Lauren Hedley

Instagram: laurenhedleyy

 

Reality Check: Boss Babes Are NOT Perfect

Hey babes,


Yup.. you read that title right. Boss Babes ARE NOT PERFECT... We forget and we fight, we get very hungry, and sometimes a little too emotional. We were not built to be perfect, but it is the acceptance of our flaws that make us Boss Babes. Unfortunately, in 2017 the pressure of perfection is immense. Male or female, YOU know exactly what I'm talking about. Just because Ashley, Lauren, and I preach unity and determination does not mean that we don't doubt ourselves and feel insecure.
 

WHAT IN THE WORLD IS WITH OUR OBSESSION WITH PERFECTION?   

As I've grown into the confident (not perfect) woman I am today, I have wondered why our society obsesses over perfection. I used to be quite obsessed with perfection too, I won't lie... I laugh at the younger version of myself that wouldn't dare step out of the house without makeup. Before my transition into a Boss Babe, I seriously thought people would not "like" me if I wasn't wearing makeup or dressed in something sexy (ugh I cringe thinking about it now). I spent so long caring what others thought about myself that I, really never took the time to form my OWN opinion of myself. 
 

REALITY VS SOCIAL MEDIA
 

You are cooler than your Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook page. Your celebrity crushes don't look like their magazine covers, dump a boy if he puts you down for being yourself, cut off your friends that make you feel ugly. You are worth more than: likes, comments, and mean friends .

 

Being a Boss babe is about breaking the 'norm' and OWNING your flaws. That is true unshakable confidence. 

 

xoxo

 

Auria Geskin 

 

How To Make Yourself Proud

Hey Boss Babes,

Today I wanted to discuss a serious topic. Over almost three years ago now I hated myself and my surroundings. I was just another sad teenage statistic destine for a life living within the "social norm". The Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy defines the term as, "the customary rules that govern behavior in groups and societies". You know what i'm talking about.. Go to college, don't be a slut but on the other hand don't be a prude, be married with kids by 30, 9am-5pm shifts, and the list goes on forever. The impending doom of a life I was not so thrilled about bogged me down. I FELT STUCK! You want to know what I have discovered? 

 IN ORDER TO MAKE YOURSELF PROUD YOU MUST....JUST DO IT- Ya i'm talking to you Boss Babe. Just f**king do it. Those dreams you have in the back of your head, that body you always wanted. Change your life by ACTION! THIS IS NOT A QUICK FIX.... not one successful person (mentally or financial) has had it easy. NO ONE IS GOING TO CHANGE YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES BESIDES YOURSELF. 

"The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but building on the new."

- Unknown

This means you need to CHANNEL that inner BOSS BABE and start living life fearlessly. Stop caring about the social norms that were put in place to control the masses (please still abide the law). Stop caring if your step mother (or whoever) approves of you taking a semester off to travel.. if YOU want to do it... DO IT! Start making yourself happy by making decisions for yourself.

YES GROWTH IS UNCOMFORTABLE LADIES

Start living life like a BOSS BABE 

xoxo

Coach Auria  

 

Just Because I Want To Be In Love Doesn't Mean I Don't Love Myself

Loving yourself is a very hard task to do and once you've learned to truly love yourself the world just seems like a better place, but does that mean I shouldn't want love just because I love myself? Fuck no. 

I hear it all the time and see it posted online several times a day- "how can someone love you if you don't love yourself first" which is completely true because loving yourself is truly something I believe every single person should focus on before they commit to another human being. But, that doesn't mean that once you love yourself that prince or princess charming is just going to come knocking, because sadly the world doesn't work like that. 

Previously I have talked about my own issues with finding self-love and when you experience heartbreak  and I know from my experience that it can take a full year (if not longer) to truly be able to love yourself and be completely independent again after experiencing, falling and having love crush you. But even though I have felt the complete void love can make you feel I am still hopeful that romance and love is something that I will have and something I want and even though its something I want I still love myself and I am still happy...I am just missing a piece of my puzzle. 

Everyone's goals in life is different and mine happen to revolve around my career and business success but also are about finding true love with my true love and  that doesn't mean I am on every dating site and constantly dating/meeting men thinking "this is the one" but it is something that I would like to happen someday.

Love is a completely unknown variable in everyone's life but, I truly believe that everyone has more than one soul mate and can find love with more than one person depending on where they are in their life.

Being at the point I am in my life I can say I love who I am, I am proud of my accomplishments and I feel like I am constantly moving forward but not having love and having it be completely unknown variable and out of my own personal control means I can't plan my life around it and being a control freak that sucks...but it also means I am hopeful and one day I know it will happen but, I still love myself completely and my worth is not defined by my love life- it’s just another goal I have and something else I want in my life. 

For everyone who loves being single- good for you and if you are happy then I am happy for you. 

For anyone who tells us we need to love ourselves more- Please stop telling us that we need to focus on ourselves and love will come because no matter how much you "love yourself" everyone has a timeline that we don't determine and love will come when it’s supposed to, but hearing we need to love ourselves when we clearly do is just fucking annoying.

For the people who don't have love yet- Don't become bitter. Fall in love with the idea of love and everything that love has to offer. Love is all around us every single day and someday it will be with a partner (if that is what you want) but, if I could ask for anyone reading this I would just hope that everyone stays optimistic and doesn't become bitter because love (regardless of it being with another person or not) is a truly amazing thing that we are surrounded by everyday.

Competition Day- ABBA Southerns 2017

      

Why I choose to Compete:

Lets start at the beginning:  Fitness for me was always an outlet. I discovered the gym as a teen in need of an outlet. My childhood was far from easy and left me well... scared, insecure, and generally hopeless in life. By the time I had graduated I was working three jobs and fully supporting myself. During this time I put my mental health, fitness, and everything on hold. It was at my lowest part of a deep depression (my rock bottom) that I decided to make a change.. A CHOICE. I was either going to live life exactly HOW I WANTED TO, LOVE MYSELF, AND MAKE AN IMPACT or die. I was no longer going to live an average life that I hated maybe, that's an aggressive view of life but its the TRUTH. Its how I FELT and how I still feel. After deciding to make the change, I went to the gym every single day. At first to help raise my endorphin's, get active, and healthier. I was hooked right away...Then it became more to me... I enjoyed being at the gym,I enjoyed the challenges it allowed me to over come, and I am proud of the person it has allowed me to become. 

I choose to compete because it pushes me to grow every single day. It gives me goals, butterflies, and the rush I need. 

How I made the change:

I get a lot of questions about how I really made a change in my life that allowed me to make SUCH positive choices and, I am going to tell you the exact things I did.

I took one year to myself: I even named it "The Year Of Auria" I don't care how cheesy or dumb that sounds.. it was everything I needed. and I ENCOURAGE EVERYONE TO HAVE THEIR OWN YEAR. I took one whole year to myself to heal. Its an ever continuing journey but god has it helped. I started to explore what I liked, I took risks, I cut out everyone in my life who was a "soul sucker" or negative influence, I read self help books, I interviewed countless of strong women with inspiring stories, I took that extra yoga class. Everyone has the time, its just a matter of doing so

I built my tribe: This one was key for me. As I began to love myself more, I realized that I deserved BETTER friends.. and oh did I find them. I am so so grateful for every person in my life because they push me to be better. This didn't happen magically, in-fact quite organically! I just had to be open to new experiences and understand that I was worthy. 

Competition: 

HOLY SMOKES!!! 16 weeks (112 days) of intensive preparation had FINALLY COME. The weeks leading up to show day were some of the hardest but best of my life. I never thought I could have PUSHED myself as hard as I did! 

The Day Before: I drove up to Red Deer (Where the comp was held) at 8am to get my spray tan... IT WAS A TRAUMATIZING EVENT. With just my luck it manged to rain extremely hard. If you know ANYTHING about a spray tan, you know that's a deadly mix. Before the afternoon even hit I looked like a striped splotchy tiger (Eeek). Athletes Check-in and meeting was at 7:30pm. After that WE HAD SOME FUN. A fellow competitor and I hit up the local earls (shout out to our server if, you are reading this you are AWESOME) we both had a marvelous glass of win and steak + fries. This is a method called carb/fat loading. Sounds crazy to the average but, the goal is that,if you have successfully depleted your body the boost in fats and carbs will "fill" or bring bring out muscle definition... aka the best meal of prep

Comp Day:  I FINALLY (after two more coats) got my tan fixed (phew). The competition didn't start until 5pm and I was in class D (your are classed by height A-F in this show) so I didn't even get to strut my stuff until around 9pm! Hahah that sure did make for a lot of tanned HANGRY girls! I restricted my water for the show meaning very little sips! Every hour I ate 2 whole wheat rice crackers with peanut butter and jam and 30 minutes before show time I ate an O-Henry. This again is a method to bring out extra muscle definition, keep hungry levels lower, raise glucose levels (for my girls that are prone to fainting this is important), the list goes on! |I would never recommend not eating during show day and  this is purely for competition purposes. This is never to be applied to real life. When the class in front of you is up, the staff call up your class to pump up (yes girls in full hair/makeup and heals are pumping iron behind stage). This is where the nerves kick in for sure. As you get ready to go on stage the butterflies really kick in. Soon after that they lined us up and prepped us for stage. It was the most incredible feeling when it was my turn to do my individual routine. I cant even describe it. After 16 weeks of hard work, it was all worth it. I had accomplished my goals, stuck to my plan, and done what I have dreamed about for years. I ended up finishing 4th in my class filled with incredible women and i'm so honored to have made top 5. Qualifying for provincials, my season is NOT done. I will be prepping the next two weeks for the ABBA provincials June 24th in Calgary! I do not expect to place at all, I am going in for the stage experience, and the incredible chance to compete against the best ladies in Alberta which can ONLY make me better and stronger. First Competition of many to come. You can expect more growth every time!     

xoxo

Auria  

 

What It Feels Like Having The Best Life Ever.

"You are so strong" 
"I look up to you" 
"You are so inspiring" 

 

I have worked for my entire life to hear these phrases because I have always known my true passion was in making a difference. I feel like everyday I have a reason to get out of bed because I have people that I need to help and if I can't get out of bed then what does that say about how these people may see themselves? But being the person that others look up too; or being the women who will never back down to anything or anyone has always made my life x100 harder. 

Inspiring, helping, motivating and accomplishing every goal I have ever set out to do is what motivates me to go to the gym, to squat a little bit more and get out of bed every single day and truly it makes me the happiest women alive; but some days I don't want to get out of bed,  I don't want to be a business owner and I wish I picked an easy life with a white picket fence or just moved to Hawaii, changed my name and never looked back. 

 

I envy the people who don't have social media

I envy the people who work regular 9-5 jobs and don't have anything else to do other than relax after work 

I envy the people with a white picket fence, golden retriever and perfect relationship.

 

Envy is the product of always believing that the grass is greener on the other side, and trust me I get it too. I have heard from friends, family and acquaintances that it looks like I have the best life ever, that I am "living the dream" but having the "best life ever" is the worlds biggest over-exaggeration when we are talking about my life. I love my life and wouldn't change a single aspect but my life isn't better than yours or worse than yours- its just different. 

I have worked for the life I have an I will keep working for what I want and my goals because I know I started and have kept going for 3+ years for a reason , and its because even when my depression, anxiety or life gets in the way... this is my passion and I wouldn't change it for the world. 

Nobody has a better life than yours and if you are ever struggling with the happiness in your life makes the changes to make yourself happy. 

- Ashley Resch

Stop Taking The Easy Way Out

After a brief read through the Pinterest health & fitness category this morning instead of getting new workouts, new workout clothes or inspiration I found: 

" If you eat garlic & honey on an empty stomach you will lose 7 pounds" 

" Murder of Obesity. A tablespoon per day will help you lose 30 pounds in 1 month" 

Which now brings me to this article. 

Losing weight, getting healthy and sculpting your body into what your ideal "dream body"  will NEVER be easy and if it is easy it won't last. Through my life everything I ever achieved I accomplished through hard-work, struggles and constantly working towards my goals and if it was easy it never lasted; this included my fitness routine. I thought for so long that if I just went to the gym 3 days a week and did cardio for 20 minutes it gave me an excuse to eat twice my body weight in McDonald's afterwards, clearly that didn't work. 

Stop thinking that fitness is a quick one time fix or that their is a one time fix for your body. If you had a porshe you would treat it like a porshe... feed it the best gas, keep the fuel clean and make sure everything it running properly; does that mean that you are never going to eat fast food in that amazing car? NO- it means you will but you will also make sure that its cleaned up afterwards. 

If fitness is what you want to work towards and you have an ideal body that you haven't achieved then put the work into to achieve it, because at the end of the journey to be able to say you worked so hard for where you are is way better than saying "Hydroxycut helped me lose 50lbs" 

If you want anything in your life you will have to make sacrifices, changes and challenge yourself and the only person stopping you is yourself- pull yourself up and take the world on. You can change your life at any age with any career, but you have to be the one that wants to make the change.